What do you say to those viewers that don’t
pursue their dreams and are locked into their careers?
Because they are too afraid to take risks and pursue something meaningful
well, the first thing I would say is well, you should be afraid of taking risks and pursuing
something meaningful, but You should be more afraid of staying where
you are if it’s making you miserable it’s like the first thing you want to do is
dispense with the idea that you get to have any any
Permanent security outside of your ability to contend and adapt it’s the same issue with
children it’s like
You’re paying a price by sitting there being miserable and you might say well the devil
I know is better than the one I don’t It’s like don’t be so sure of that. The clock
is ticking and if you’re miserable in your job now and
you change nothing in five years You’ll be much more miserable and you’ll be
a lot older. but isn’t it a luxury to pursue what is meaningful?
Our viewers have mortgages. They have children. they have payments and loans. It’s a luxury
to pursue because we lack the resources Well, I don’t think I don’t remember now.
I’m not talking about what makes you happy It’s a luxury to pursue what makes you happy
It’s a moral obligation to pursue what you find meaningful. And that doesn’t mean it’s
easy it might require sacrifice if you need to
change your job to let’s say you have a family and, and, and, and children and,
and a mortgage you have responsibilities You’ve already picked up those responsibilities.
You don’t just get to walk away scot-free and say well I don’t like my job
I quit that’s no strategy. But what you might have to do is you think well this job is killing
my soul All right. So what do I have to do about that?
Well, I have to look for another job Well, no one wants to hire me. It’s like okay.
Maybe you need to educate yourself more Maybe you need to update your your curriculum
vitae your resume. Maybe you need to overcome your fear of being interviewed
Maybe you need to sharpen your social skills Like you you have to think about these things
strategically if you’re going to switch careers You have to do it like an intelligent responsible
person that might take you a couple of years of
Effort to do properly. When you say pursue something meaningful.
Is it important to have a vocation? I think it’s more important to, to have a,
an ethos, an ethic The first thing that you want to do is figure
out imagine you were taking care of yourself like you were someone you cared for
Then you should figure out well if you could have what you needed and wanted what would
it be? What sort of friends would you have? What
would your family relationships look like? How would you conduct yourself with your children?
How would you educate yourself you need to think through how it is that your life could
be properly Arranged if you had that ability and then
you can aim at that. And the funny thing is is that if you do
Pause it a goal of that sort and work towards it
you will move towards it the goal will change because you’ll learn things along the way
but I mean I’ve dealt with hundreds of people in my clinical
and consulting practice and we set a goal we develop a vision and
Work towards it and it things Inevitably get better for people. So it’s
not a luxury. It’s it’s difficult. It’s a moral responsibility and it isn’t happiness
It’s it’s not the pursuit isn’t for happiness. And that might be the best thing that ever
happened to you because if the structure you’re in is going in that direction and
you can’t stop it it’s like get the hell out of there and find something else so
it’s not that hard to find a job when you already have a job that’s another
thing to keep in mind too. you know whenever you’re working and you will be
especially in the world that the world of today where jobs are relatively
uncertain is you should always have an escape route planned and it should be
active because if you don’t have an escape route and you can’t get away you
can’t say no and if you can’t say no you can’t bargain and if you can’t bargain
you’re a slave so those that’s how that’s how the world is set out at the
moment it’s probably always been like that but it’s something that you really need
to know because you got to watch if your if your being is objecting to someone to
something that someone is forcing you to do maybe you’re right maybe you
shouldn’t be doing it and lots of people end up living meaningless lives and that
that’s a that’s not a very good term because there’s no such thing as a
meaningless life because one of the meanings of life is suffering and
there’s no bloody way you’re going to escape that so you will not have a
meaningless life you’ll have a life that’s only suffering and I wouldn’t